How many times have you been so angry you didn’t know what to do, or have received a critique that has brought you to tears? People react differently to different situations, which we should find encouraging because that way we can learn from each other. Furthermore, not all of us control our emotions the same way and on the same level. Emotions, complex as they are, can most simply be divided into positive emotions (love, joy) and negative emotions (anger, pain, fear, anxiety).
Controlling your emotions. Emotions occur as a response to external or internal stimuli/memories. Everyone manifests their feelings in different ways. The way one displays their emotions is more or less controlled and can be learned, and mostly depends on that person’s upbringing, the culture in which they were raised, the company they keep and the character they’ve built during their life. For a grown-up, emotion control is very common; it only differs in the degree of mastery one has over it.
Forget about your emotions! There are situations in which you need to forget or block your emotions, as if you didn’t have any in that particular moment. Encourage yourself by telling yourself that when it’s all over, you’ll rest or shout, if need be. It’s a good way to momentarily put your feelings on the back seat, but be careful when you switch them to the front because it may cause you to overload emotionally (for example, starting to cry or “lose it” during an important meeting), making all your efforts for nothing. This solution can function only if you know that the situation in question won’t last very long.
Develop your mental control! This is probably the best way of control when you are in a situation that doesn’t allow you to emotionally express yourself (for example, a discussion with your boss or one of your superiors). Emotions are an integral part of our mental apparatus – with just the right amount of mental control we can decide how to feel in that moment. Emotions can be learned, which means we can affect the way they manifest. This way, we diminish the intensity of the dominant emotion.
Start your day in a positive manner! Try telling yourself that the day before you will be filled with optimism and good feelings. Try to wake up with a smile on your face, and ignore all situations that may spoil your mood. Positive attitude can also be used when finding the solution to any issue. Be positive to the people surrounding you – for example, when on a break, don’t get coffee just for yourself, cheer up your colleagues with a fresh cup as well, it’s not a lot of effort and it will mean a lot to them.
Talk about your emotions! The best way to solve whatever’s been bothering you is to get it in the open. Talking will help you clarify the problem, thus helping your brain come up with a solution that best suits you.
Relieve the pressure! If by nature you are an “emotional” person, find a way to get rid of that extra pressure by doing something that relaxes you. It can be a sport activity, using the stairs instead of the elevator or just having a quiet moment alone away from people.
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